why do good people do bad things?

pick up a newspaper or turn on the tv and we are bombarded with stories of rape, murder, deceit – basically all the bad in the world.

i’ve been told that i am too naive, that i more often than not set myself up for disappointment by expecting only the best from people. i have been hurt, i’ve experienced loss but that still hasnt taken away my ability to believe in the good of this world, that there is always a rainbow after a storm and that people are inherently good and that it is some external factor that makes them do bad things.

what is a bad thing though? we live in a day and age where people drink too much, lies flow freely, where stories of adultery aren’t surprising anymore – in short all that was taboo back in the day is now the norm. some of the nicest people i know are those that society is quick to deem ‘party animals’ and point out that they are on a one way ticket to hell but they are good people. they dont hurt, they treat people with kindness and dignity, they have high morals and principles. on the other hand there are those with a holier than thou facade, they go on about how they dont gamble, dont smoke yada yada but these people lie, they back stab, they act with malice with the intention to inflict hurt ..

over the years a bad thing for me is the intention or actually inflicting harm on a person. people i believe are born good. and its their experiences along the way that i think cause them to do bad things. greed, envy, jealousy can give rise to bad acts and these come about from experience.

someone must have wronged osama bin laden when he was young and that’s what caused him to do what he did. that boy that just had no qualms about cheating on you, maybe his ex-girlfriend cheated on him. the maid that just stole from you maybe her husband spends his money on drugs and she was just looking for a way to feed her hungry children.

i found this website that identifies some psychological reasons people do bad things – http://www.businessinsider.com/27-psychological-reasons-why-good-people-do-bad-things-2012-8?op=1.

i once read somewhere – be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. who knows a simple smile and a how do you do to a random person you bump into at the supermarket line might prevent them from going out and stabbing someone.

dont let the negativity brew! smile, smile and smile some more.

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